Do These and Have a Happier Marriage Tonight

1. Be loving enough to INSPIRE your spouse to be loving.

2. What seems natural to you as a lover probably doesn't work the best for your spouse. In fact, it may well be the case that your spouse wants nearly the opposite of what you're doing...or at the very least, something different.

3. Be bold enough to ask questions about what pleases your spouse...and really listen this time...instead of just hearing what you want to hear...and then be bold enough to give your spouse what they find pleasing.

4. Be bold enough to inform your spouse of what pleases you.

5. Your spouse has certain things they are focused on, responsible for, and interested in besides you. This doesn't mean you are unimportant to them...it means they need you to help them set those things aside for a moment and "settle down", relax, and reconnect with you.

6. Set aside neediness, insecurity, jealousy, and other such negative mentalities...they are repulsive...they are the antithesis of happiness.

7. You NEVER lose anything or have less when you GIVE something out of love and care. It will, in time, ALWAYS return to you multiplied and increased from some source...known or unknown...expected or unexpected.

8. Yes, your spouse probably wants what you think they want...and when you just give them what they want...with gratitude that you can even give it to them...it will really fan the flames of their love for you.

9. There are also some things your spouse wants that you are NOT thinking about. And when you start thinking about those things...and GIVE them...it really fans the flames of their love for you.

10. Be HAPPY to GIVE your spouse what THEY want...instead of what you want. Your spouse wants you to care enough about them to GIVE them what they want...not what you think they want...or even worse, what you "want" them to want.

This is a critically important point that escapes most people...in many cases, a person "says" they are doing something for their spouse when in reality, they are doing it for themselves.

So, just becoming aware of WHO you are doing something for...yourself or your spouse...and communicating accordingly...can clear up a lot of issues and problems.

Here's a for instance, when you are supposed to be touching your spouse in a way that escalates THEIR pleasure...when the context is about ramping up your spouse's pleasure...but you are actually touching them in a way that escalates YOUR pleasure...it IS frustrating and irritating to your spouse...and will cause them to resist and reject your touch.

The maxim therefore is this: Give when you are supposed to be giving and receive when it's clear that you are in receive mode.

11. The good that you see in your spouse is a reflection of YOUR good.

12. The bad that you see in your spouse is a reflection of YOUR bad. Any married person can see the selfish, inconsiderate, disrespectful, non-loving aspects of their spouse...and if they'll open up and get honest and real, they'll see those same unwanted, unpleasant aspects in themselves.

Moreover, if they'll eliminate those unwanted, unpleasant aspects in themselves, it will have the miraculous effect of eliminating them in their spouse too.

13. No matter how many times you've said it, your spouse STILL likes to hear that you love them and care about them. No matter how many nice things you've done in the past, your spouse STILL likes for you to do nice things for them. Bottom line, your spouse STILL likes to know that you REALLY care about them MORE than anything else.

Save Your Marriage - Three Key Steps to Maintaining a Blissful Marital Relationship With Your Spouse

The fact that more and more marriages end up in the murky waters of divorce nowadays is very unfortunate but it is a bitter pill that we must swallow and accept as the simple truth. By so doing, we would be in a very good position to carefully analyze the situation and come up with effective steps that we can use to turn around the situation. In fact, marital problem resolution counselors have been doing that for sometime now and have come up with various steps that spouses can take in order to lead a blissful married life. Out of all the steps they have come up with, I have chosen just three, I will briefly discuss these three in this write up and before I start, I want to assure you that if you and your spouse can effectively adhere to these three steps, then there is no doubt about the fact that your marital relationship will definitely be filled with bliss.

Step 1: Do Not Nag Or Fight

Nagging and fighting can be described as the single most common events that are bound to happen in any marital relationship but there demerits in a marital union can be very devastating. If you can carefully trace back to all the nagging and fighting episodes that you and spouse have engaged in during the course of your married life, you would easily realize that at the end of each episode, instead of putting a point across, you would end up destabilizing your marriage the more. Note: all the nagging and fighting in this world would never be as effective as a simple dialogue.

Step 2: Effective Communication

Effective communication is like a lubricant which keeps the motion wheels of a blissful marital relationship rolling. Unless you are a seer (if such people still exist), there is absolutely no way that you can read your spouses thought at all times. Instead of trying to read thoughts and second guessing, it is very important that you and your spouse should develop an effective and healthy communication habit. By simply developing this habit, you would knowingly or unknowingly be setting your marital relationship into a path of bliss.

Step 3: Healthy Sexual Relationship

It is a common knowledge that many marital problem issues arise from activities in the bedroom, it is also common knowledge that little marital problem issues are often blown out of proportion in unions that have unhealthy marital sexual relationship. Healthy marital sexual relationship entails that both spouses come out of each sexual session with the utmost sexual satisfaction achievable. In the case of males, they have to reach the point of ejaculation during each of the sexual sessions that they engage in with their spouses, while in the case of females, they have to achieve not just single but multiple orgasms each and every time they are engaged in a sexual session with their spouses. In most unions, the males experience little or no problem reaching the point of maximum sexual satisfaction, however, the problem lies with the females who more often than no do not get the point of maximum feminine sexual satisfaction despite the fact that every sexually active woman is capable of achieving not just single but multiple earth shattering orgasms each and every time that she is engaged in the sexual act.